Introduction:
A family consists of a group of people living
together caring for each other and sharing the
ups and down of life. Where the key elements in
a family is the parents and their kids. Basically
parents are the role models for these adolescents.
From the phase of the birth of the baby till its
complete mental as well as physical maturity,
parents either single or both has much to do as
a responsibility during the whole period of bringing
up their kids. What basically “parent”
mean? “The verb parent is one of those
intriguing words that are used metaphorically
before a primary or concrete meaning has established
itself.” Therefore, the understanding
concluded for the verb parent is “raising
children”. So by parent we mean the one
who is under obligation of taking the task of
rising up the infant or child. Usually men take
the initiative for primary parenting.
Where adolescence is a transition phase of development that every individual goes through. In fact it is a period of dramatic changes where the attachment to a relationship is concerned. As a consequence of this developmental phase of attachment, young children get attached to either of the parent or any other brother and sister or who so he/she feels close and more understanding to him/her. Basically this ensures the children safety and secures them from the dangers existing in the world. Therefore, “adolescence culminates a developmental process in which interaction with parents has shaped children’s minds and behavior in ways that may or may not prepare them for life outside their families.”
DEVELOPMENTAL CONSTRUCTION OF RELATIONSHIPS AND MATURATION:
While building constructive relationship to
children, parents should also observe their personal
efforts in adjusting themselves for their kids.
For instance parents are much mature and aware
for the good things children should approach and
need to guide them as well. Sometimes children
do not want any interference in their choices
for schools or friends but it is the patience
and understanding of parents to support children
and guide them what is good for them and what
is bad. According to the research conducted by
Dr. Roth, “Children often do not know
what is most important to them, but if you are
consistently supportive and available, that is
what is most important.”Therefore,
most of the communication of parents with
kids is considered to be instrumental for building
the relation with kids.
Therefore, the developmental construction of relationships and maturity among adolescence and the parent is the most important aspect to be observed. Children basically use self-protective strategies against their parents if they feel any threat from them, for instance if a parent is very strict to his child and does not keep a behavior whereby understanding and friendship prevails and keeps on scolding the young kid for little things and do not offer any substitute as love, then that very kid will feel a distance in the relationship with that specific parent. Usually this kind of distance is found between the father and kid. So it is very important for the parent to maintain balance in the relationship with the child as he is undergoing a developmental and constructive phase during his maturity. As the child enters puberty the shape of attachment changes to sexual relationships where the teenager adopts different strategies. However all the strategies adopted by the child during the whole phase of developmental construction and maturity depends upon the vary psychology and mental approach along with the environment provided to the child for this development. Hence, parents should always understand the psychological development of the child to handle them technically when they use such strategies.
The final period of adolescence where the mental and physical maturation affect the relationship development and attachment behavior of the child is the early 20’s. While during the period between 15-25 new mental and physical competencies to give upadult patterns for self-protection and reproduction is integrated with the developmental construction of relationships towards maturity. These new competencies mighty include sexual arousal, conceptual reasoning as well as reproductive behavior
PARENTS AND SIBLINGS:
Observing the relation ship development between
the infant and parent is very easy. It all depends
upon the understanding that the infants and parents
have extremely different powers as infants do
not have the capacity to take care of parents
while the parents have to at any cost. Infants
feel themselves at the same time independent and
depend on their parents. As observed an analyzed
by Collins, “Infants explore the world
away from their attachments figures when they
feel safe and return to them when they feel threatened
or uncomfortable.”
When these infants get at the age of going school they seek alternative attachment figures and begin to challenge the status of their parents and get attached to their friends or best friends. These they found of similar status and get attached to them and explore the social as well as the physical world. However, when these children need protection and comfort they turn back to their parents and realize the strong bond of relationship they have naturally gifted to them in the shape of parents. Therefore in this way they explore changes and start recognizing relationships even prior to reaching the adolescence phase.
PARENTING TECHNIQUES AND GENDER PARENTING:
Young parents usually are not aware of the parenting techniques and as a result their relation with children develops into a complicated shape. Though they do not have a large generation gap but the less education to develop a healthy relation with the kid and lack of information to brought up their kids with out discrimination the gender difference develops a complicated psychology of the kid. This gender difference could be by both means, either parents having themselves a difference in dealing the kids, for instance father is more loving while the mother is not or the other way round. The other instance is treating the children in a discriminative manner like giving more attention and affection to any one of the genders say the boy and not the girl; this results in to a very negative psychological development.
Nonetheless, the family, teachers and toys provided specifically keeping in mind the gender thing teaches the children what is suitable and likely to them. For instance,” When we give little boys violent toys that encourage aggression we are saying, "Here Johnny, we like mean and violent men. We want you to be mean and violent too." So in this way we are teaching our children what behavior they are to adopt as a part of their personality. On the other hand we usually give dolls to our daughters and make them feel the delicate, sweet and weak part of the society. We do not give them cars or other toys that boy enjoy playing.
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